About: adult

Hi, I am a coach, speaker, and trainer who helps people be more authentic by nourishing their inner connection. 

As a child of Chinese immigrants who fled the Cultural Revolution in China but was born and raised in Brooklyn, NY, I questioned authenticity at a young age. Depending on which lens you are looking at me, I was either not “Chinese enough” or not “American enough.” So who is the real Nancy?

This questioning continued as I was the first in my family to go to college (the University of Virginia was definitely a different scene than Brooklyn!) and then joined the work world of corporate America. I find myself being confused about what is likable, acceptable, or even enjoyable. And because I was one of the “smart kids” this was then followed by some contorting to fit myself in somewhere (anywhere) so I can thrive, or at least survive. 

The year 2016 broke me open when several beloved family members and I were ill. All the tools in my high achieving toolbox (i.e.: logic, strategy, problem solving, and working harder) could not help at all with the overwhelming changes – in the physical world, relationships, and within myself. So I went on a quest: a quest for what works for Nancy, which was also a quest to connect with the more authentic Nancy.  

Since then I sit on and am supported by the 3 legged stool of Internal Family Systems therapy, mindfulness and meditation, and nonviolent communication. I have more peace, acceptance, and even enjoyment of who Nancy is and the many parts of her. That she matters – with the voice and space to be who she is. I can now show up more fully in relationships with compassion, boundaries, and skills even when time are tough.

This is the reason why I want to help other high achieving professionals who are struggling to be authentic and feel connected in their relationships because I know that being authentic not only matters, but it feels really good when we are.