Interview with Stacy Pringle, the Thoughtful Listener (47 minutes)
Interview highlights:
- Since emotions are not rational and you can’t problem solve relationships, bringing authenticity to relationships helps us be in better connection. Authenticity is an inside-out job: you have to listen to yourself first.
- My origin story. You can read about it here.
- Nonviolent communication creates a deeper self knowing based on needs that are universal and humanistic. For example a Lamborghini is not a need, but a person who has this car may have a need for appreciation, efficiency, or to be seen or known.
- The ability to listen to ourselves allows us to be authentic because we know what is important, instead of listening to all the noise (which can be parents, culture, social media, news, etc.). We can find what is important and then take the smallest next step to bring more of it into our lives.
- Hurdles to listening include cancel culture, imposter syndrome, shame and blame, the environment itself, feelings and triggers, and being mean to ourselves. When we are listened to without judgement or shame, we can go deeper and experience the magic of connection.
- Mourning the gap is an exercise to acknowledge truly where we are, where we would love to be, and the gap between the two places.
- There is power in groups: to be seen and to witness others makes us feel less alone and have a sense of shared humanity.
Interview with Isis Latham from EvoBizDev about Authenticity in Conflict Resolution (22 minutes)
Interview highlights:
- You can’t problem solve your way through relationships because our logical brain gets overwhelmed with emotions and triggers so we need to include other parts of our emotional and creative brain.
- Conflict needs time, trust, listening, and empathy to resolve. Where we butt heads is on the strategies (my way or the highway!). So we can ask: what do we need and how do we get to it together?
- Tips for navigating through conflict: 1- there are no quick fixes – show up consistently to build trust, 2- when people feel really heard they relax. Communication is like a game of catch: you catch the ball (listen) and THEN you throw it (talk). Without this it’s just a painful game of dodgeball. 3- openness and curiosity allows everyone to slow down and pause for reflection. Having someone to hold the space is helpful.
- Power of role play – you get to embody the other person and see what is really going on for them.
- Things that help mediate difficult situations: 1- meeting with people 1:1 to understand what’s going on, 2- set foundational agreements during the meeting. Agreements are not rules and they can change, 3- model the behavior I want participants to have, 4- let my own vulnerability show – we give much power to mediators, so it is important to show that the mediator is human too.
Interview with Dave Polykoff on the Key to Building an Authentic Personal Brand (1 hour 10 minutes)
Interview with Alisa Stamps on You’re Not the Crazy One (36 minutes)
Interview with Robert Middleton on Ordinary Visionaries (42 minutes)
Interview with Dorothy Graham O’Dell on Unstoppable Overcomers (58 minutes)
Interview with Nicole Johnston on Yarns for the Soul (1 hour, 10 minutes)
